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“This Is Discrimination”, Couple Blast Catholic Priest Who May Not Marry Them Because They’re Pro -Abortion 

“This Is Discrimination”, Couple Blast Catholic Priest Who May Not Marry Them Because They’re Pro -Abortion 


A Northern Ireland couple claims the Catholic Church is discriminating against them because of their support for abortion.

Kevin McAteer, 32, and his fiancee Shaunagh Griffin, 36, of Newry, Northern Ireland, want to marry in the Catholic Church, but McAteer has been a vocal advocate of abortion – a serious concern for Father Damien Quigley, according to the Irish News. Only on Sunday did the couple reveal their names to the news media, the report states.

Last week, the couple drummed up negative publicity against Quigley because he expressed concerns about marrying them, given McAteer’s vocal, public opposition to church teachings. By advocating for abortion, McAteer directly opposes Catholic Church teachings about the sanctity of human life from conception to natural death. The couple said Griffin is pro-life.

Quigley of the Diocese of Armagh told the news media he expressed his concerns privately and had hoped to meet with the couple to discuss them.

While it is a matter of conscience for Quigley, the couple claims it is about discrimination.

Here’s more form the report:

In a statement released last night, the couple said they still had “no priest or church” for their wedding, adding: “We feel the church is discriminating against us because we are not following them. However, we feel that everyone has a right to an opinion and that although 66 per cent voted in favour of the yes campaign…does that mean they will be denied marriage in a Catholic church as well?

“Furthermore how will our children be affected. Will they be unable to get baptised in the church now that one of their parents is pro choice?”

The couple have made a complaint to Catholic primate Archbishop Eamon Martin and have also contacted Taoiseach Leo Varadkar to outline their concerns.

In a private message to the couple, Quigley asked to meet with the couple about this conflict of values before moving forward with plans for their marriage, The Belfast Telegraph reported last week.

His message then was shared with the news media, possibly anonymously by the couple.

In a statement last week, Quigley did not say he would not marry the couple, only that he had concerns about their support for the legalized killing of unborn babies.

From the outset, I wish to advise you that it would not be appropriate for me to discuss details of my pastoral support to any specific individual or couple in their preparation for the sacrament of marriage,” he said. “However, please be advised that I have never refused to prepare any person or couple for the sacrament.”


The Archdiocese of Armagh issued a similar statement a few days later after the matter erupted in the news media.

Why a couple would want to be married in a church whose teachings they actively oppose is odd. But what is more deeply concerning is what appears to be an attempt to push Catholic priests to violate their deeply-held religious beliefs.


Conscience rights for religious individuals and entities are under attack throughout the western world. In America, Planned Parenthood and the ACLU openly oppose conscience protections for doctors and nurses who have a “moral objection” to abortion because it kills an unborn baby before birth.

Some have resulted in legal battles. In 2009, while working at a hospital in New York, nurse Cathy Cenzon-DeCarlo was forced to assist with a late-term abortion. Though she objected on grounds of violating her religious beliefs, the hospital threatened disciplinary action if she did not participate.

After a years-long legal battle and an investigation led by the Department of Health and Human Services, the hospital eventually changed its policy to ensure medical personnel are not forced to participate in abortions. Now, Cenzon-DeCarlo is an outspoken advocate on behalf of other medical personnel who are faced with the same unjust dilemma.

Catholic hospitals also have come under attack for refusing to abort unborn babies or perform medical procedures that violate their faith.

About To Marry A Non-Catholic, What do I Need to know?

About To Marry A Non-Catholic, What do I Need to know?

Also, I’d like to get married in a Catholic church. Will that be possible?

What does the Church say about Catholics marrying non-Catholics? I am Catholic and my fiancée is Evangelical. I’d also like to get married in a Catholic Church.

Because the sacrament of marriage establishes between man and woman a “partnership of the whole of life” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 1601), Christian spouses would ideally share the same religious conviction and practice, so that the partnership of their marriage might be as complete as possible.

As we know, however, men and women can fall in love and wish to marry for a variety of reasons, even when religious faith or practice is not something that they share.

While the Church acknowledges that the “difference of confession between the spouses does not constitute an insurmountable obstacle for marriage,” her pastors counsel nonetheless that “the difficulties of mixed marriages not be underestimated.” Many Protestant pastors also give this counsel.

For her part, the Church desires that couples not experience the “tragedy of Christian disunity in the heart of their own home,” which can become a “source of tension in marriage, especially as regards the education of children” (1634).

For this reason, the Church obliges the Catholic party wishing to enter into either a mixed marriage (Catholic and non-Catholic Christian) or an interfaith marriage (Catholic and non-Christian) to obtain special permission from his or her bishop. This permission is usually granted on the condition that the Catholic party will not be pressured into abandoning the Catholic faith, and that he or she will remain free to fulfill the duties of a Catholic parent, which includes raising the children in the faith. For the Catholic party to receive this permission, the non-Catholic party must agree to these terms.

The reason that the Church takes extra care in these instances is because, ultimately, the Church wants to safeguard the souls in her care. So while the Church allows for mixed marriages, she also wants to make sure that Catholics are protected from any misunderstandings or from false or even unjust expectations by non-Catholic spouses. The marriage preparation phase before your nuptials is going to be essential for working through these questions with your fiancée.

The Church does not require your fiancée to convert to Catholicism, but it wouldn’t hurt her to have a deeper understanding of her future husband’s faith. I recommend she attend Mass with you regularly, if she’s not already doing so, and for her to check out your parish RCIA program or other adult education program to get some basic instruction in the catechism.

As for getting married in a Catholic church, there shouldn’t be any reason that you can’t, provided that you’ve received the required permissions. Your pastor will help you with this. Because marriage is one of the seven sacraments, and a marriage celebrated by two baptized Christians is a sacramental marriage, it stands to reason that the most natural place for your wedding to take place is in a church. Of course, this brings up the question of intercommunion between Catholics and non-Catholics, which the Church does not practice. This can be a sensitive issue for some couples. Again, your pastor can help you work through the issue in an intelligent and sensitive way.

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