Why Be A Chauvinist? 

Why Be A Chauvinist? 

Chauvinist?



The first time I came across the phrase ‘male chauvinist pig’, I had no idea what it meant. I was reading a romance novel my sister had passed on to me. Being only ten years old at the time, I had simply taken mental note of the new terms and continued reading. 
But as I grew older, the phrase began taking better perspective in my brain. Male chauvinists are everywhere around us. Men who seek every opportunity to belittle women in whatever way(s) they can, fall under this categorisation. 
I’m guessing you have male friends who sit around and talk about ladies as though they were ‘devils’ sent from the pit of hell, all day and everyday? Maybe you’re one yourself? Perhaps you can’t help but ‘cat call’ whenever you see a beautiful lady, thinking her place in society is restricted to ‘za kitchen and za oza room?’ 
Oh! Maybe you’re a groper; one who thinks it’s okay to simply touch ladies’ body parts at the slightest chance (even in public places), without realising they’re human beings with feelings? Perhaps you’re not a very physical man. You only have thought patterns that make you believe that women can’t be better than men in any possible way? Voilà! You’re a male chauvinist…ehen! 
I was raised by a mum, whose love nearly messed me up (positively of course). If she were still around, I would be a much better man today, no doubt.
I grew up in the midst of sisters who taught me to love and respect women. No kidding! Women have ‘love’ hot wired into their DNA. This is why many children that miss the opportunity to be raised in its mother’s arms, turns out WRONG! 
According to ‘theAsianParent.com, “Brain images had revealed that a mother’s love physically affects the volume of her child’s hippocampus – by almost 10 per cent…” Do you have any idea what that means?
News Medical Online says, “the hippocampus is a small organ located within the brain’s medial temporal lobe and forms an important part of the limbic system, the region that regulates emotions… [it] is associated mainly with memory, in particular long-term memory.” 
So the fact that we have male chauvinists could be a clear sign that many kids grew up without a mother’s love. How else can we explain the emotions of men who think women can never achieve anything meaningful in society? 
If you’re a man, getting ready to marry, and you still think that a wife is meant to be your slave – one who would say ‘yes sir’ to your every whim and caprice, you’re WRONG! And your hippocampus is dysfunctional. Get some true love, so that, that part of your brain might receive some new inspiration. 
For those already married, do allow your wives be themselves. Trust them enough to give them some breathing space. And don’t be neck deep in extra marital affairs as to forget that the marriage covenant is between “a man and a woman”, and not “a man and two women”, or “a man and some women.” Infidelity is thus the chief expression of male chauvinism. 
In a final twist, perhaps what’s more pathetic than all the scenarios painted above is the fact that women have proven many times to be more chauvinist than men. We have mothers teaching their female children that it’s a man’s world, hence they can’t be whatever they want to be. There are women who are ever ready to be side chicks and mistresses. Some women have helped men look down on and disrespect their fellow women… The list is endless. 
Thus, women must as a matter of necessity learn to think better of themselves and act accordingly. They must be willing to be trail blazers and icons of emulation in various fields of human endeavour. They must therefore SHOW us how they want to be treated. 
Nonetheless, if we want a better society, we must learn to treat our women better, be they trail blazers or not. They have what it takes to heal our world and make it a better place. So why be or remain a chauvinist?
© Oselumhense Anetor, 2018.

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