Category: Motivational

How A Man Falsely Accused Of Murder And Rape Got His Name Cleared Through St. Pope John Paul II’s Intercessions 

How A Man Falsely Accused Of Murder And Rape Got His Name Cleared Through St. Pope John Paul II’s Intercessions 

Touched by his story, Pope Francis later embraced Tomasz Komenda in Rome, during one of his Wednesday Weekly Audience.


It’s a real miracle. An incredible, inspiring story. 

In 2000, a 23-year-old Polish man, Tomasz Komenda, was accused of rape and murder of a young 15-year-old girl. Despite his denials, he was found guilty due to scientific “proof” — two experts confirmed that the teeth marks found on the victim’s body matched those belonging to Komenda.

Once in prison, the young man was in a veritable hell. Rapists were harassed, humiliated, and sometimes even tortured by their fellow inmates. And Komenda couldn’t rely on the prison guards to ensure some sort of protection and order. As he explained in an interview with a Polish TV show, they “looked away.”

His prayer to St. John Paul II

As he was unable to convince anyone of his innocence, the young man looked for help elsewhere. Although an unbeliever, he started praying to John Paul II. At the top of his bed, the Polish pope looked at him, smiling, in a photo given to him from his mother. “If you are a saint,” prayed Komenda, “You are in heaven with this girl. If you must take me up there, take me now. If I must be free, let me be free.”


TOMASZ KOMENDA

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Six months after this cry from the heart, a policeman knocked at his prison cell. He didn’t believe in this young man’s guilt and would help him prove his innocence. After a year of legal disputes Komenda was cleared. “The Holy Father heard me,” he shared joyously. And when he was released in mid-May, he immediately promised to go to Rome to thank John Paul II, at his tomb.

“Only those who keep their word are respected” claims a Polish proverb. And Komenda kept his word. Less than a month after his release from prison he was in St. Peter’s Basilica, surrounded by his mother and father, where he prayed privately in front of the altar where John Paul II is buried.

Pope Francis touched by his story

Komenda was unaware that his story had reached as far as the Vatican. The Papal Almoner, Archbishop Konrad Krajewski, who also happens to be Polish, had got wind of the story. The now freshly-appointed cardinal contacted the family and invited them to accompany him to St. Peter’s Square, where Pope Francis holds his general audience on Wednesdays.

TOMASZ KOMENDA

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Divine Providence has a way of doing things. The family got as far as the pontiff himself, and were asked to say a few words. Touched by what he heard, Francis spontaneously held Komenda in his arms for a long time. He then asked his photographer to take some photos of him with the young man.

The story doesn’t end there. The Komenda family were invited to dine with the then-Archbishop Krajewski. The meal was prepared by a once-homeless man named Enzo, who had also spent many years behind bars. “I will prepare him a feast like he has never had before!” exclaimed the chef.

See Video Of Catholic Priest Who Disguised As A Begger & His Parishioners Did Not Help Him

See Video Of Catholic Priest Who Disguised As A Begger & His Parishioners Did Not Help Him

A Catholic priest decided to test how big the hearts of his congregation are by disguising as a beggar in Nnewi area of Anambra state Nigeria.

The priest identified as Fr. Thaddeus Ilechukwu popularly known as Egwu Umumuo, pretended to be a beggar after disguising himself in ragged attire so that no one can recognize him.

The Priest sat on the ground as a beggar near his church premises before walking around to beg for food.

Many of his members who were trooping into the church for his Weekly adoration programme could not render any help to him. Some even warned him to get away and threatened to beat him when he approached them for help.

After much display, the priest entered the church and went near the altar as some ushers tried to chase him away.. That was when he revealed himself as their leader and the shocked congregation erupted with joy.

The people who rejected him and abandoned him before screamed with joy after the revelation as they rushed him and wanted to hug him before they were restrained by the ushers.

The priest told them that he disguised himself in order to show them the need to be charitable and render help to the unfortunate ones even the least of them.

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Why Be A Chauvinist? 

Why Be A Chauvinist? 

Chauvinist?



The first time I came across the phrase ‘male chauvinist pig’, I had no idea what it meant. I was reading a romance novel my sister had passed on to me. Being only ten years old at the time, I had simply taken mental note of the new terms and continued reading. 
But as I grew older, the phrase began taking better perspective in my brain. Male chauvinists are everywhere around us. Men who seek every opportunity to belittle women in whatever way(s) they can, fall under this categorisation. 
I’m guessing you have male friends who sit around and talk about ladies as though they were ‘devils’ sent from the pit of hell, all day and everyday? Maybe you’re one yourself? Perhaps you can’t help but ‘cat call’ whenever you see a beautiful lady, thinking her place in society is restricted to ‘za kitchen and za oza room?’ 
Oh! Maybe you’re a groper; one who thinks it’s okay to simply touch ladies’ body parts at the slightest chance (even in public places), without realising they’re human beings with feelings? Perhaps you’re not a very physical man. You only have thought patterns that make you believe that women can’t be better than men in any possible way? Voilà! You’re a male chauvinist…ehen! 
I was raised by a mum, whose love nearly messed me up (positively of course). If she were still around, I would be a much better man today, no doubt.
I grew up in the midst of sisters who taught me to love and respect women. No kidding! Women have ‘love’ hot wired into their DNA. This is why many children that miss the opportunity to be raised in its mother’s arms, turns out WRONG! 
According to ‘theAsianParent.com, “Brain images had revealed that a mother’s love physically affects the volume of her child’s hippocampus – by almost 10 per cent…” Do you have any idea what that means?
News Medical Online says, “the hippocampus is a small organ located within the brain’s medial temporal lobe and forms an important part of the limbic system, the region that regulates emotions… [it] is associated mainly with memory, in particular long-term memory.” 
So the fact that we have male chauvinists could be a clear sign that many kids grew up without a mother’s love. How else can we explain the emotions of men who think women can never achieve anything meaningful in society? 
If you’re a man, getting ready to marry, and you still think that a wife is meant to be your slave – one who would say ‘yes sir’ to your every whim and caprice, you’re WRONG! And your hippocampus is dysfunctional. Get some true love, so that, that part of your brain might receive some new inspiration. 
For those already married, do allow your wives be themselves. Trust them enough to give them some breathing space. And don’t be neck deep in extra marital affairs as to forget that the marriage covenant is between “a man and a woman”, and not “a man and two women”, or “a man and some women.” Infidelity is thus the chief expression of male chauvinism. 
In a final twist, perhaps what’s more pathetic than all the scenarios painted above is the fact that women have proven many times to be more chauvinist than men. We have mothers teaching their female children that it’s a man’s world, hence they can’t be whatever they want to be. There are women who are ever ready to be side chicks and mistresses. Some women have helped men look down on and disrespect their fellow women… The list is endless. 
Thus, women must as a matter of necessity learn to think better of themselves and act accordingly. They must be willing to be trail blazers and icons of emulation in various fields of human endeavour. They must therefore SHOW us how they want to be treated. 
Nonetheless, if we want a better society, we must learn to treat our women better, be they trail blazers or not. They have what it takes to heal our world and make it a better place. So why be or remain a chauvinist?
© Oselumhense Anetor, 2018.

You Can’t ‘Pray Away’ A Mental Health Condition 

You Can’t ‘Pray Away’ A Mental Health Condition 

You Can’t “Pray Away” A Mental Health Condition

 

At times, it’s hard to believe that over 22 years ago, I almost took my life due to depression. Being a black female and growing up in the 1960’s where black people had way more to deal with than mental health conditions, mental health was never really discussed.

Fast forward to 2017, and it’s mind-boggling just how far behind the African-American culture is when it comes to mental health and suicide. There are so many reasons, I could probably write a book on them. However, for this blog, I’m just going to focus on three:


A Mental Health Condition Means You’re “Crazy”.

Relentless stigma accompanies mental health conditions. From the words we use—like “crazy,” “cray cray,” “psycho,” “nuts”—to hurtful jokes about people who live with mental health conditions, stigma surrounding mental health in my culture is deep-rooted. But there is no shame in having a mental health condition. The true shame is not getting the treatment you need to have a good life. Let’s all use National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month to take the time to learn the facts from the stigmatizing fiction.

African-Americans need to know: A mental health condition is no different than a physical one. Our brains are the most important organ in our bodies and can get sick just like our hearts, lungs and livers. Not only that, you can recover from a mental health condition and lead a healthy life. Further, African-Americans are not immune from mental health conditions, and 5.6% of us die by suicide. Up to about two million (10%) African-American men live with depression.

A Mental Health Condition Is A Sign Of Weakness.

I was going on 35 years old, with no clue that I had clinical depression. I had never been in trouble with the police, didn’t smoke, drink or do drugs. But I found myself sitting in the back of a police car on the way to a mental hospital, and I kept thinking to myself, “What had I done wrong?” When I arrived at the psychiatric hospital and called my mom to let her know where I was, the first thing she said to me spoke volumes: You just need to be stronger.” This is a battle cry for African-Americans.

Getting help for a mental health condition in my culture’s eyes is a sign of weakness, a personal flaw—not a legitimate, clinical condition. In fact, 63%  of African-Americans believe that a mental health condition is a personal sign of weakness. To be honest, I believe that number is higher. I know when I walked into that mental hospital 22 years ago, I thought it was going to be everything I’d seen on TV and heard my mom talk about. It was neither. As bad as that day was, it was the beginning of me becoming educated about mental health—which was important not just for me, but for my culture and society as a whole.


A Mental Health Condition Is “In God’s Hands”.

According to a recent Gallup survey, African-Americans are the most religious culture in the United States. Our deep-rooted religious beliefs go all the way back to slavery, when religion was the one solid foundation we had during those times. Our ancestors then—like we African-Americans now—lived with depression, anxiety, bipolar and PTSD but back then, there weren’t any names for those conditions. Back then, people battling a mental health condition were simply locked up, wandered the streets or even put to death.

With all that my culture had to deal with throughout history, present-day African-Americans feel we don’t need help mentally. All we need to do today is the same our ancestors did, which is: “Pray about it. Give it to God.” But you wouldn’t tell someone with cancer, diabetes or heart problem to just pray about it or give it to God, would you? You’d hopefully say: “You need to see a doctor.” But when it comes to mental health in the African-American community, there is very little compassion or empathy.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with praying for recovery from a mental health condition, but we still have to be proactive. We can’t “pray away” a mental health condition. We have to get help. And I am living proof of that.

After receiving treatment, I am living proof that as an African-American female, you can have a mental health condition and thrive! I am proud to be an advocate for NAMI Charlotte and even prouder to be on the board on NAMI NC. Join me in stomping out stigma in all cultures!

Written by Fonda Bryant


Fonda Bryant is very active in the community bringing awareness to mental health. She has been a volunteer with NAMI Charlotte for over three years and recently was elected to the state board of NAMI NC. She also volunteers with MHA of Central Carolinas and with the AFSP. She speaks to the rookie classes of CMPD, and is vocal about mental health, whether on television, in the newspaper or radio, her passion for mental health knows no boundaries.

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